Here’s a little something I wrote for communications:

Jacob Morris
COMM 2110
My Best Friend
My wife, Caroline, is by far my best friend. She’s great. She’s fulfills a lot of complimentary needs for me. I see her often, I am able to disclose my feelings to her, and she does the same to me. I have never been as close with anyone as I am with my wife.
One complimentary need that my wife meets is something I like to call spreading versus stacking. Caroline is spreader, I’m a stacker. I like to devote all my time and energy towards one thing at a time, Caroline likes to be doing many things at the same time, so she does more things, but she has less time and energy to dedicate them in.
My wife and I just moved into a new apartment, and I think that experience provides a good example of stacking versus spreading. As a stacker, I like to pick what I consider to be the most important thing and work on it until it’s done. So I started packing boxes like crazy. I wondered why my wife wasn’t doing the same thing. To my good fortune, my wife took care of many details I wasn’t even thinking about, so by the time I was done with the boxes, they were all taken care of. My wife had cleaned up the house, washed and folded clothes, and helped to organize our incoming labor force. My wife reminds me to do things I should be doing, even if I don’t think they are the most important. I try to help my wife remember not to try to do too many things at once.
My wife also meets a complimentary need by helping me to be more careful. My whole life I’ve been the kind of person that puts forth as little work as possible to get by. My handwriting is a good example. It has never been very good. One day in second grade, I decided to write neatly and I found out that I could, but decided it probably wasn’t worth the effort. Before I got married, my shoelaces were often untied, my shirts were often stained, and my grades were almost always B’s. All of this behavior stems from my laid back attitude. Handwriting, shoes, shirts, and A’s never seemed that important. One of the first things I’ve noticed about my wife is that she has gorgeous, almost artistic, handwriting and dresses herself in a very neat and cute way. My wife has the attitude that in life, if you get all details right everything else will fall in the place. I’ve really begun to see that she is right.
I think my laid back attitude is helpful to my wife. I remember one time she was setting a table for a family gathering. She was getting very upset, because there weren’t enough plates of the same set. She was going to have to use some plates that wouldn’t match. Worrying about details is beneficial, but when there’s nothing you can do about a situation there is no use stressing out over it. Luckily, I was there to remind her that nobody was going notice if two plates were slightly different than the others.
Although Caroline and I have our differences, we also share some important things in common. We both have the same religious beliefs and core values. That’s important in a marriage. For example we both feel really uncomfortable watching movies that have swear words. This is good because otherwise I might get pressured in to watching something I don’t want to watch. I am very happy that Caroline and I enjoy the same things.
A lot of guys go for girls who are younger than them. The idea is that they can get prettier girls that way. Girls seemed to be impressed with a guy who is a little more established. I’ve never bought into that theory. There’s a big difference between 19 and 22. Part of what attracted me to my wife is that she is smart. I was able to have some really nice conversations with her because she had a mature enough mind. So another thing we have in common is we have about the same level of maturity.
I t is very fortunate that Caroline and I enjoy doing many of the same things together. I love movies. Once I came back home from Puerto Rico, I watched movies all day. I started in the morning and didn’t finish late at night. If I had enough time and enough movies I could probably do that all day every day. I love the experience of being taken into someone else’s story. When I’m stressed out there’s nothing I love more than popping in a good movie. It is good that Caroline shares that value with me, or I would go crazy. I’m glad we can put in a good movie together and enjoy it.
Not only do our differences and our similarities make us close, but also the time that we are able to share and disclose information to each other. My wife and I have dinner together every night and talk about things we have done that day. We spend every night and every morning together. It’s really nice to have someone to come home to.
In conclusion, I am attracted to my wife for several reasons. She fills complimentary needs for me and makes me feel better than I would otherwise. We share in common the things that are most important to me which makes her my best friend.

Advertisement